For this edition of my Monthly Updates, it just happens to be our one year wedding anniversary! I will be doing something a bit differently this time around, and will be looking back one year ago (today) and will be discussing 5 things I wish I had done differently on our wedding day.
Before I begin, just a recap that I have now completed discussing the kitchen renovations, and have begun writing about our summer projects (starting with installing the gate hardware). As mentioned on my Facebook Page, the weekend posts in the month of June will be dedicated to all things wedding!
You should expect to read about:
So stay tuned for that!
Without further delay, here is the list of the 5 things I would change about our wedding day:
5. Practiced our First Dance
The Husband and I danced to an acoustic version of “Sweet Child of Mine” from Guns N’ Roses. We hadn’t practiced any sort of coordinated dance, so we basically just went up and danced how we normally do. This is fine, except that obviously everyone was looking at us, so our “moves” could have been a bit more polished I guess. The song was also very long, and sped up and slowed down at different points; I think if I were to do it over again, I would have perhaps edited it down to half the length. Either way, we were super happy, but I don’t know if our guests liked watching us for what seemed like ages!
4. Gave Programs to Everyone
The bridesmaids and I painstakingly worked hours to complete these custom made wedding programs. Before the ceremony, I had instructed the groomsmen to pass them on to every guest. I think they only gave them out to those who asked, so we ended up with A LOT extra. If I could go back, I would have forced everyone who attended to take one, whether they wanted it or not (sorry for being pushy!). This would have also eliminated questions/comments that we received “Oh I didn’t know about this” or, “what time was this at” because it was clearly marked in the program :)
3. Organized Transportation
I didn’t want a limousine for our wedding day as the entire event was happening all at one location, so I figured we didn’t need one. I still stand by that, because I honestly didn’t care about being fancy like that on our wedding day (so we just took normal vehicles). Problem was, I never actually assigned anyone to be the driver, and didn’t plan ahead of time how we would get to each location (ie: makeup to hotel, to photo location to ceremony site) and I think the guys also thought I would tell them what to do, so they were in the same confused boat as the ladies. Thank goodness we had great photographers (Rosie and Jamie of Photo Captiva!) who were able to chauffeur us around town.
2. Had a Second Dress
I always thought that getting two wedding dresses was excessive. I loved my wedding dress. When I went shopping for dresses, I didn’t have a particular style in mind and ended up loving this bright white, sparkly and poufy one from Maggie Sottero. I liked the fact that it wasn’t tight all over and I didn’t have to do any pre-wedding work-outs to try and fit into it. I thought I was set!
Unfortunately, after stuffing my face with food all throughout the day, the inner corset got tighter and tighter as the night went on. I kept having my bridesmaids unzip the dress and loosen the strings throughout the night, but by 10:30pm I couldn’t take it anymore. I had to take this dress off or I wouldn’t be able to enjoy my wedding night (I had spent the last hour sitting at the head table, trying to contain the pain of my collapsing lungs).
It just so happens that my Dad brought the clothes that I had been wearing all day, so I had something to change into! Problem was, it was a black strapless tank top and ripped jeans… not very wedding-y! If I would have known about the uncomfortable situation I would have been in, I would have definitely bought a second dress. No, not something expensive or fancy. Honestly a 20$ white casual dress would have been just perfect at this point!
1. Talked to All Guests
This is probably my biggest regret from our wedding day. We had so many guests from out of town, and even guests that live near us that I didn’t get a chance to talk to. It was a whirlwind day, and it seemed like I always had something to do, so I can sort of rationalize this… but it still bums me out that I couldn’t personally thank each person for attending. I wish I would have incorporated a block of time to visit each and every table in order to talk to all the guests (rather than just stop at random tables on my way to the bathroom, or to go take pictures or something).
Conversely, now that I have gone through the wedding experience as a bride, I will know that when I am a guest to another person’s wedding – that I will understand if I can’t reach out to the happy couple during the day. I’ll also make sure to try and approach them to get a quick “hey congrats” in too.
A way to solve this would have been to have a receiving line; however I personally hate all aspects of wedding receiving lines (ie: waiting in line, hugging people) and knew that I would never subject my guests to something I wouldn’t want to do. I’ve also been to a few weddings where the receiving line is the first time I’ve actually met the bride or groom – so it’s a bit awkward to meet someone that way.
Nevertheless, our wedding was a perfect day, and it just happened to be one of the only nice and sunny weekends all summer last year, so we were lucky! I just hope that my list helps anyone who is planning a wedding, to at least consider these items that I had forgotten/ignored and wish I could change.
What about you? Are there any things from your wedding day that you wished you could have done differently? Or maybe you’re planning a wedding, and you’re considering one of these tips to help you avoid some regrets. I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!
Disclaimer: All photos from our wedding day were taken from our great photographers Rosie and Jamie of Photo Captiva.